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Kate Harvie

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When it’s Not Ours, We Can’t Take it Personally.

Taking things personally is a tricky thing. While it may seem as though there are scads of things we should perceive to be criticisms and rejections, that list is actually very short. While I don't have the stats on this, I'm confident to say that at least 93% of the time, when people are talking around us they're not talking about us. It may feel like they are (and we all know what that is, right?). Trust me. They couldn't give a shit about you and me. When my life was on pause - post-hospital release, living at my parents' house, figuring out what on…
Kate Harvie
May 18, 2016
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Rethink + Re-feel = Reframe

When I was - maybe, when we were - growing up, parents, teachers, coaches would say, "If you could go back and do it again, what would you do differently so the result is better?" Or they'd say something like that, and the articulation, added to the idea of going back in time, was powerful enough to move me (I can speak only for myself here) to regret what I had done and wish I could do it again. Because I would do it better...not that I always knew what better meant or was. Now this was surely not the hope of any…
Kate Harvie
May 7, 2016
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Sideways. It’s Only That Way While You’re IN It.

Sideways. Besides being the title of a disappointing Alexander Payne movie in 2004 (whose review of mine you can read here), it's a word in our current vernacular that defines several things. For our purposes here, it means undesirable, wrong, or straight messed up. Do you remember the first time something went sideways in your life? Share it in the replies, if you want. The first for me was when I failed the Ohio Bar Exam. That news came down on Halloween in 1999. Having spent three years of my life preparing (or so I thought) to become an attorney,…
Kate Harvie
April 25, 2016
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Isn’t Everyone Writing a Book? Why Are YOU?

I intend for my book to be a source of actionable things that, when applied, lead to a life lived more in what I call your "happy." I hope - no, I believe - that I can assist there by providing the literal, specific, and personal details and thoughts on what's occurred in my life since 2/12/09. I'm not proud of everything I did and I'm embarrassed by plenty. Here's the truth: first I felt, and then I did. Now I believe in a series of truths that I'll share first by planting the seeds here. "Self-help" is a term that, if…
Kate Harvie
April 18, 2016
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The Reveal – What’s Going to Be Here

On February 12, 2009, I suffered from a traumatic brain injury (TBI). To say that my life - and I - changed is an understatement along the lines of "Auto-Tune is lame." What's going to happen in this space, in this place will be my sharing portions of what was and what is in my mind and heart post-being hurt, during recovery, and "post-recovery." I'm working on a book whose working title is No Filter: How to Re-frame and Restart Life. You see that "post-recovery" is in quotation marks because I know that I am a soldier and a survivor. And this renaissance…
Kate Harvie
April 18, 2016